This Coach Talk relates to your attitude in the midst of an experience that goes awry.
You engage in all kinds of big and little things all day long, many of which don’t go exactly or even approximately the way you might have planned. Your choice in what to do when things go sideways will be whatever it will be—your attitude however, will impact your overall sense of satisfaction regardless of outcome. An attitude of playfulness tends to maintain the fundamental fluidity of your awareness thus supporting complete, and therefore, meaningful experiences. An attitude of seriousness tends at some point to restrict that natural flow leaving you partially aware because of your requirement for a specified conclusion.
Playfulness here is not in the ordinary sense that lacks consequence such as, “. . . entertainment, amusement, diversion” and so forth. It is playfulness in the sense that engagement in an Organizing Mind creation can be released whenever intuition indicates. Thus choosing to continue engagement sits on a foundation of personal choice or resonance which is what makes something consequential. Playfulness in this sense is often intense without becoming serious.
When things go awry engage from a place of personal choice just as you might try harder when challenged in a game you love to play. That is a playful attitude. The ups and downs that occur in your day are not errors of some sort but personal decision points—are you in a game that you feel called to play.
Make a plan right now to be conscious of the next thing, big or little, that goes wrong in your day. When that happens, say the following to yourself:
My playful attitude has me open to possibility—not so much of success but of engagement in a game that calls out to me—this challenge is a consequential moment of possibility for meaning and value in that game and in my life.
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